One morning as I was walking our dog, Samson, tears suddenly started flowing, and I just began to talk to God. It did not take very long for me to realize that what I was wrestling with was the all-too-familiar feeling of rejection.
I did all I knew to do.
I attempted to break the silence that so easily crept into the friendship, and there’s still silence on the other end.
I can’t make anyone want to have me in their life, and not everyone needs to be in mine, I get that. But I’m still fighting off the feelings that the spirit of rejection so gladly ushers into my heart.
It’s in these moments that I cling to those who embrace me, who accept me, and remind myself that I am loved.
First and foremost: Jesus loves me.
My husband loves me.
My children love me.
My family loves me.
And there are friends that surround me that fight for our relationship.
In moments like this, it is so important to run to the Word of God to replace lies with God’s truth.
Proverbs 18:24 gives us instruction about friendship:
“A man who has friends [a]must himself be friendly,Proverbs 18:24, NKJV
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Although Proverbs 18:24 doesn’t necessarily say that friend is Jesus, I know that ultimately, He will always be there for me even when everyone else fails me.
Because people will fail us. People will reject us. Even our Christian brothers and sisters- this of which I struggle with understanding the most.
Many people rejected Jesus (and continue to do so), but while He was here on earth, even one of His very own disciples (Judas) rejected Him. And just a couple hours later, another one of His closest disciples (Peter) rejected knowing Him. THREE TIMES.
When we face rejection, we must remember that Jesus had to/has to endure rejection every single day as people turn their back on Him. No matter what, Jesus understands more than anyone what we experience when rejection comes our way. Thank God for Jesus’ forgiveness when we turn our backs on Him; He gives us so many opportunities to repent and make things right in our relationship with Him! Jesus understands and His arms are open wide, ready for us to cry out to Him about our pain of rejection.
If you are dealing with rejection, I want to encourage you that you don’t have to embrace the lies that you are unwanted or unloved. There is a Man who wants to be the closest friend you have ever had in your entire life. Everything could be stripped away from you or everyone in your life may walk away from you, but the Lord’s love for you will always be there.
In Christ, you are made worthy before God and are accepted into His beloved family. The cross is a symbol of God’s great love for you. Jesus died and paid the price for our sin so that we would forever experience a relationship with our Heavenly Father. Without a relationship with Jesus, you’re a sinner in God’s Holy eyes, but embracing Jesus, ushers in the greatest relationship you will ever know from now on into eternity. He wants to walk with you. He won’t reject you and will stick close forever and always. Oh, what a friend we have in Jesus!
In you are wrestling with the pain of rejection, pray this prayer:
I’m hurting. I don’t want to hold onto this pain.
I want to heal. I choose to forgive.
I want You to bless those who hurt me, even if they don’t want me in their life anymore.
Your Son was rejected, even by You, for a moment, out of love for me. Thank You, Jesus, for being the friend I need who sticks by me no matter what.
I love You. Thank You for always loving me.